Some years back, I saw a set of these Fireking Peach Lustre dishes at GoodWill, for some ridiculous price. I think it was something like $16 for a four place setting - four cups, four saucers, four small bowls, four desert plates, four dinner plates. They triggered some sort of half remembered thing in my brain. I recognized them immediately. I had a vision of them coming in washing powder. Did my mother get them that way? While I don't remember her having a set of these dishes, it was interesting to me to find that they were given in boxes of soap. Perhaps my mother had them, but I don't know for sure, since I can't connect them to a specific place or person. They simply felt so very familiar.
But, I digress. I snapped those peach lustre dishes up and they've been tucked away. I don't have a lot of cupboard space here, and so I've never pulled them out, but I can use them at the new house, and I'm excited about that. My Corelleware will go in the pantry in the hoosier cabinet for times when we have company.
Today, I got another 'want'.
Hampton Court, 1926, silver plate. 66 pieces for $30. They just were so delicate and shiiiiiiiiiny... Tim said, very sensibly, "You don't need them."
And he was right.
But I did want them, and that's almost the same thing. (Kind of.)
I went to look at them, telling myself that I didn't need them, but somehow they are sitting on my kitchen table even as we speak.
$30 isn't awful, I told myself. I felt better when I looked on ebay and found that I'd gotten a very nice deal on them, which made me feel loads better because I truly did not need them.
We showed the apartment today, and for the first time, we really had a discussion with a tenant about neighborhood safety. The house is on the quiet end of our street. We have three houses in a two block range, and we've never had to think about it before.
The person seemed very nervous when I talked to them on the phone. Some people do have difficulties. We recognize that. I made the appointment for 1PM, and we got to the house, knowing that this was going to be a different kind of situation.
We waited at the house, and right on schedule, the person showed up. The situation was much more different than we expected. They were a transvestitetransgender (thanks to Boud - I did not know. Now I do.) Very nice. Very nervous. They loved the apartment. They thought it was very well maintained. They loved the extra bedroom, and thought it could be used for yoga. Long distance runner. Mountain biker. The balcony was wonderful. The river was wonderful. (They are a nature photographer.)
I wasn't sure how to approach things, but decided to simply address the elephant in the room forthrightly. I said, "I want you to be happy here. I know that there are many LGTBQ supporters on this street, but I'm sure that you saw the T---P signs as well." Nervously, the answer was given. They don't drive. They walk or bike everywhere, and they use the bike trail (close to the house) every day. They've walked the street pretty much daily, and greeted the people they met, and no one has ever failed to greet them back.
I was glad to hear that. In these times, it just seems like the ugliest voices are the loudest. I explained that the downstairs tenant was an ally (I ushered at his nephew's wedding some years back) and that the house itself was safe.
They looked at me and said, "I've dealt with this before," and we all knew this was truth. They waited, anxiously, thinking that perhaps we would not rent to them. Which seems sad, really. We have protections. At least I thought we did. At this point, who can tell for sure though?
They took an application, but I think that it is merely a formality. We know all we need to know. This one is not a 'moaning minnie' (to quote Bovey Belle).
Tim picked up my chicken coop today, and we will take it to the new house tomorrow.
I can't even bring myself to address the new bombshell: the bombings in Yemen. The fact that the planning was carried out over a public server, and that an unauthorized person (a reporter!) was inadvertently cc'd. That a CIA member's identity was revealed. My god. Can it possibly get any more ridiculous? I mean, this is national security we're talking about, from the same folks who screamed about Hilary Clinton's e-mails.
Anyways, it gives me my topic for my e-mails to congress tonight.
Let's end on a laugh, shall we?
Those are lovely old dishes. I have my wedding silverware, hardly ever used, and I thought what a waste. So now it's in my utensil drawer and I use the silverware everyday. I feel quite fancy:)
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine how difficult it is livng a trans life. Some people are accepting and loving, while others are angry and hateful. I hope everything goes well for them.
I read an article about the planning of the bombings in Yemen, there's no other way to say it, what a bunch of fucking amateurs!
It just made me feel bad that they seemed to look as if they thought we would refuse to rent. I just felt as if this had happened before.
DeleteI imagine it has happened before. They didn't know who you were, now they know you guys are good people.
Delete$30.00 is nothing, and life is short. Good for you for getting them. This was an interesting read about DUZ, I remember my grandmother buying that soap powder and there were green glass goblets or dish towels inside. Now about this transvestite in Trump Country... oh boy.
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DeleteIs it? I am confused then. I thought I was doing so well to remember the pronouns. But in any case, they got the apartment. Off to educate myself.
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DeleteI have some soup bowls like the gold dishes, my dad used to get them with gas. At one time gas stations gave away glass ware with a large purchase. I also have a set of juice glasses with gray trim that came in silver dust laundry soap.
ReplyDeleteI love the irridescence.
DeleteI remember those orange dishes, too! Not sure from where because I know my mom didn't have them. She only used Tide. Never have seen the second plates, though.
ReplyDeleteMust be horrible to be trans and be living right now when they are so targeted. Hard to assure them they won't be harassed, but it sounds like you have a good idea they would be safe. :) :)
The fact that they were familiar with the area made me feel better.
DeleteIf dishes and cutlery make you happy, that is good enough, and it was inexpensive.
ReplyDeleteYeah. I manage my champagne tastes on my beer budget.
DeleteWell done..when you think how much you save on other things as well..30$ is not bad at all.
DeleteI saw a set advertised on e-bay. Of course it came with the chest. They wanted $275. It had less pieces than mine.
DeleteSo glad you got those dishes! And btw your chicken coop is beautiful!! I miss having chickens.. ours were slaughtered by a fisher a few years ago, and we just never got more..😳I hope the Trans person feels safe enough to apply for the apartment! My youngest is a trans man.. and I can tell you that I worry about his safety and all everything else, especially in this political climate 🥺Xo, Rigmor
ReplyDeleteIt is something that I have never dealt with personally. Tim either. This is part of a pretty steep learning curve. We discussed pronouns tonight. But Tim felt that this was a practical person with a work ethic, and we like to honor that. He made the decision tonight.
DeleteYou seem to doing well with property at the moment.
ReplyDeleteWe had some kind of crockery like that when I was young, and I think it came with a product too. I think we knew it as lustre ware. I love the second plate with the simple and stylish decoration.
I accidently killed a spider when trying to take it outside safely. My heart was in the right place, even if my brain wasn't.
Oh, I tend to kill bugs without a second thought. I probably should feel badly.
DeleteI'm happy you're a good landlady for your probably tenant.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to make sure they knew about the neighborhood. The guy across the street is a big mouth and an asshole to boot. But they seem to be pretty adept at handling assholes. They were offered the apartment tonight.
DeleteThank you for speaking plainly and kindly to your potential renter. And the flatware is beautiful. We don't only need things for utilitarian reasons.
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You are right. We don't.
DeleteI remember all the "gifts" stashed in grocery buys. As a child, our "good" dishes were the blue willow plates that were purchase bonus at A&P.
ReplyDeleteBoth the plates trigger a memory for me. Either my mom or my grandmas, maybe all of them, had some of both patterns. Your silverplated flatware is very nice and you like it. We all need to get some of our wants some of the time.There was a laundry powder that contained towels too, that may have been Breeze detergent.
ReplyDeleteWe got the towels too. Had them for years...which was surprising. They were so thin.
DeleteI remember them in a laundry detergent Breeze.. The were really good Cannon towels. Kris in Ohio.
DeleteOurs were very thin. I can't remember who made them. They were very durable though. We had them for years. Stripes, solid colors which coordinated with the stripes, and you got either a bath towel, a hand towel, or a wash cloth in the box.
DeleteYou reminded me of the days when Mom got dishes in soap packages. It was the only way she was going to get a set of anything.
ReplyDeleteThe wheat dishes were replaced by dishes she got, one place setting at a time when she went grocery shopping every week.
DeleteRenting to that couple would likely be a lot safer than to two young guys.
ReplyDeleteGosh yes. We did that once. Two friends. Party central. One was very responsible. His friend was just as irresponsible as his friend was responsible. Tim got a kick out of Mr. Irresponsible though. He was a likeable eejit.
DeleteGosh, what a post. The dishes and silverware!!!! How fancy. The dishes are just lovely, what a find!!! And such a great color. And of course you needed the silverware. I have to confess I am the queen of silverware. My grandfather had a jewelry store in from about 1919-1969. You registered for your pattern at his store. I inherited my grandmothers, my great aunts and my mothers. And yes, I need it all (LOL). I never use it, but I admire it so that's the same thing.
ReplyDeleteI think your tenant sounds perfect. They have carefully considered the apartment and it is just what they want - with no complaints. And it sounds like they will pay their rent and take care of their home so they can have a safe place. Win win for both parties.
I want to thank you for the list of ways to help. I am going to share it with my Indivisible. Our group is planning about 3 different activities like protests in the next two weeks. But with my recent history of several falls, I am a little nervous about walking strange sidewalks. This makes me feel a little better. Maybe my support is just surviving right now.
I am so worried about the men and women serving our country in the military. I do not trust this inept bunch of idiots to keep them safe. I am so appalled and sickened. I want to say really really bad words.
I just fell in love with the pattern. I never wanted anything like that in my life...until I laid eyes on them. Glad there are more like me. It was impractical.
DeleteI do love the Fireking Lustre dishes. They're really pretty. I'm glad you'll be able to use it now, as well as your flatware. Sometimes, just looking at pretty things is enough. I have my Mom's wedding flatware, it's been in a closet for decades. It really needs to go, it's in a wooden box, which is lined in anti-tarnish cloth. Bless you for being a kind soul to the trans guy. The world could really use more kindness.
ReplyDeleteI am quite pleased.
DeleteYou willingly those peachy dishes! They look gorgeous with Jadeite too.
ReplyDeleteI have a lot of silverplate, and really need to sort it and downsize. It is just so pretty. Cleaning it can be a job, but we used ours for quite a while before I finally gave in and got some stainless, because Larry didn't want to help with cleaning my old stuff.
I hope your prospective tenant will decide this is their new home. What things people have to worry about, things that shouldn't even be an issue. It's just sad.
They were offered the apartment tonight. Their delight was touching.
DeleteI remember the towels and glassware too.
ReplyDeleteAnother good house deal. Well done you, and your new tenant
ReplyDeleteRather surprising that this worked out so quickly. No advertising this time, which was interesting.
DeleteHere in UK we had free glasses with petrol (gas) at one point we had the full collection, hubby did loads of driving. As for want not need, at our age we go with our love of things.
ReplyDeleteYou know, I do remember glasses with gas fill ups. I also remember 'tiger tails' being given out by Esso, whose mascot was a tiger...as in 'put a tiger in your tank'. I also remembered plastic horseshoes. I had to look them up. They were a promotion at Gulf stations for No Nox gas.
DeleteWe used to get soup mugs at petrol (gas) stations. I saw some being offered for sale on ebay a year or two ago.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your new tenant.
The latest idiocy from the orange one's government is breathtakingly stupid. No western government can rely on joint security with USA.
Every time that I think that they can't be any more incompetent, they prove me wrong. I think that the fact that they're going after the reporter who reported this says a lot about the state of free press here.
DeleteCanada has done a great job of coming together for the good of us all. We know the orange one is stupid and now very dangerous as well. He has proved it every day that he has been in office. Who knows just how much lower he can go. He is a threat to you all. Keep up your letter writing and calls to the white house Debby! I think our boycotts are starting to be noticed but we really don’t want to hurt the average Americans who don’t support the idiots in power, but we need to protect our sovereignty. Maybe we need to threaten to annex Alaska, Maine and Hawaii. Lol. Gigi
ReplyDeleteI'm pretty sure at this point, states would volunteer to be annexed.
DeleteMy late Husband got a set of silverware (stainless steel) at a gas station back in 1968, I am still using the 2 knives , 2 forks and 1 spoon that is left 57 yrs later . Barb
ReplyDeleteDoesn't it make you wonder where silverware disappear? I've had my current set for 20 years. I've got it all - except for spoons. I am missing a lot of spoons.
DeleteI used to use a full set of silverware that I collected with grocery store purchases. I think Lily is using it now. Funny how so many of those things given with purchases were food-serving-related as so many people could hardly put food on the table. But I am sure that many people really enjoyed the prize in the laundry detergent or at the gas station.
ReplyDeleteNow. As to pronouns- they/them are used if the person identifies as non-gendered or non-binary which is not specifically trans-related at all. If a trans person identifies as female, her pronouns are she/her. If the trans person identifies as male, he/him. Thus, my trans friend Anna would use the same pronouns as any woman identifying as female and my son, a trans man, would use the same pronouns as any man identifying as male. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking what pronouns a person uses if you are unsure. Generally, if someone presents as female in clothing, hair, etc., it is safe to use she/her and if they present as male, he/him. Also- names can be an indication.
I know this all sounds complicated but honestly, it's not and using the correct pronouns is a sign of respect.
We didn't know who we were dealing with until they showed up, so it came as a bit of a surprise, something that we'd never dealt with before. The interesting thing is that while we were talking to them, pronouns didn't matter at all. It was all 'you' and 'yours'. It was only when we were talking about it after the fact that the issue of pronouns came up. We both figure that the topic will be put to rest once we get better acquainted with them, but we were more concerned about the lease being signed without a frank discussion of the neighborhood. There are plenty of 'safe' houses along the way, but there are three neighbors in particular who can be aggressive in their opinions. It put our mind at rest when they were so matter of fact about things. Anyways, I'm sure that we'll figure out the preferred pronouns as time goes on. They were dressed in jeans and a tucked in shirt. It could have gone either way, and part of me wonders if that was the intention. But Tim liked their plain common sense and practicality, things we look for in a tenant.
DeleteYour post reminded me that my "good china" was collected from the Jewel store by my Mom. She would save points that would add up so a person could get a piece from the collection - plates, cups, saucers, serving pieces, etc. It's lovely.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you found a good tenant for your apartment!
My mom had 'good china' from a grocery store as well. It was a very big deal to her to have 'special' dishes.
DeleteYou are a good person. Glad to read they took the apartment.
ReplyDeleteCan't say that about this administration. Planning to join a march on April 5th.
We have a local protest that goes on in front of the courthouse. It seems to be growing. Protesting is my daughter's 'thing'. I am more of a writer, and a boycott-er.
DeleteI have seen the wheat dish patterns before in a lot of op shops and share houses - I think that they were also supermarket incentives. I got my first set of saucepans when buying groceries for a share house in 1990! Perhaps silverware flipping may be a newfound income stream ;) glad that you got what you enjoy.
ReplyDeleteIt is kind of neat that all those things I thought to be distinctly 'american' aren't. I am glad they are part of other people's memories.
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