Sunday, July 12, 2026

In Which Tim Does Not Buy a Car

Thursday, Tim said that there was a car he wanted to look at up in Cassadaga, NY.

I get confused because he has said, over and over, that he does not want to buy another car right now. Gives very sound reasoning for not doing so. Yet every evening he is looking at cars on the internet. Lately, he has been fixated on an Acura. So I say things like 'but I thought you didn't want another car right now." He says, "you always want to keep an eye on what's available."

Things to know: 

1) I could not care less about what car I am driving as long as it gets me from point A to point B, so I am happy with the Suburu, and Tim has two trucks.

2) We never buy new cars. They are overpriced and begin to depreciate as soon as you drive them off the lot. So we were looking for a good used car.

3) Tim does the maintenance on our cars, so....

4) in the end, car decisions are his to make which people don't quite understand, but it is the way we do things. Always have. 

Seriously, we discussed upgrading to a newer car last spring, gave away the car we were replacing, and then Tim began the search. In April, I was visiting my son's family. During our evening phone conversation, I mentioned to Tim that on the way to the Mennonite grocery store, I had noticed a number of neat farms with shiny black cars parked out front with for sale signs on them. I suggested he make the trip out with me next time to scope out potential purchases on the eastern side of the state

He laughed."Oh yeah! I forgot to tell you I bought a car." The fact had completely slipped his mind. 

But I digress, this time, I had only one request. I liked hatchbacks rather than a trunk. That was more practical in my mind. Night after night, he looked through listings. We went to probably a half dozen dealerships scoping out the offerings. For all of that, we definitely did not buy anything because we were not buying another car right now. 

Then he read about that Acura up in Cassadaga, so we made a trip up there to not buy it. And I was glad we didn't buy it. It was an okay car, but I thought it was overpriced compared to the Honda Pilot sitting next to it, with comparable options. Tim studied that car too and made the decision not to buy that one either. 

But then I saw his head pivot. He went quiet. He very likely heard angels singing. He headed for another car on the lot. He was all over it. All under it. Inside it. He was ticking mental boxes. I noticed it had a hatch instead of a trunk. My mental box: ticked. 

The salesman came out, slapped a license plate on it and handed Tim the fob. We took it for a test drive. We pulled off in a parking lot and he tested the options out. I read things from the car manual to him. 

He certainly was spending an unusually long time not buying this car. We drove back to the lot. Tim got out and studied the car. He gave me a list of things to look up on my phone while he studied under the hood again, and examined the frame.

I began to have some real doubts about whether we were still not buying this car. He said, "I am going to offer him (x dollars)" and headed off to the office. At this point, I knew for sure that we were definitely not not buying this car. We didn't, of course. And we did not not put a deposit on it, and we are not not picking it Monday afternoon.

It is a fleet car, well maintained, something called a Honda Crosstour, which was discontinued once Honda discovered that their Accord/SUV marriage was not a good seller. At that point, they made the switch back to selling Accords and offering a Honda Pilot to appeal to the SUV crowd. 

 
On the way home, Tim sighed. " I am glad that problem is done."

I said, "I had no idea that not getting a car was so stressful! I thought that once your mind was made up, you just went ahead and didn't do it."

Here is a random shot we got coming home from Tim's family reunion/outdoor brick oven breadmaking extravaganza yesterday. We drove home in comfortable carbed-out bliss.

I hope this makes up for the lack of train pictures, Andrew. I boarded with an allergy situation and got motion sickness. I did not spend a lot of time looking out the window, so no. I did not take pictures. 

54 comments:

  1. Like you, Debby, I don't care what I drive as long as it gets me where I'm going, and I take my taller half's advice when it comes to acquiring a vehicle because he knows something about them and knows what to look for and takes a lot of time thinking about them before purchasing and also makes sure, once we have them, that they're maintained. Our husbands might be cross-border twin souls. -Kate

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    1. And then there is Glenn Moon...they'd make a happy trio wouldn't then. If we start looking behind (and in. And under.), we would probably find a herd of them.

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    2. Heh-heh. Glen's always looking too. ALWAYS! But he's not saying he's not buying. When he finds what he wants (and he will) he will buy it. And like you I'm, "Whatever."

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    3. I just read Glen the parts of this where Tim found and DID NOT BUY THE CAR! He laughed. He says that's a great car and he is the Car Guy so there you go.

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    4. I read your comment to Tim. Car guys get really pleased to hear their opinions backed by another car guy. Tell Glen he said thanks! And forgive my always tacking the extra 'n' at the end of his name.

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    5. Eh, everyone does that. I'll tell Glen that Tim said thanks.

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    1. Yes. he never ignores when the angels sing.

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  3. I was so glad to hear last week that my 2007 Elantra is good to last 5 or 6 more years. I hope I last that long, too!
    I have the same question as Pixie - did you buy the car? I got confused by the "not buying" and the "not not buying" ?!

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    1. Double negatives = positive. I realized we were no longer buying when he walked in and made an offer. Yes. We got it. Pick it up Monday.

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  4. Lovely story, so well told. I smiled all the way through.

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  5. I care about some weird things about cars, besides getting from point A to point B: AWD is a must, heated seats (help my back) with lumbar, and a color I like. I bought my current Subaru Forester because I approved of the shade of blue. I couldn't decide between a Honda CRV, A Toyota Rav or the Forester and the color was the deciding factor. I see you ended up getting the car! Congratulations!

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  6. Obviously you both do your homework to make the not decision easier.

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  7. Well, I hope you enjoy not driving this car you didn't buy!

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  8. I have a 2020 Rav4 and it is in top condition with 24,000 miles. I talked to a salesman at Toyota and he told me I really do not need a new car, Rav4's are good cars and mine looks like new. I am getting too old to step up in it so think I need a smaller SUV. We will see. Good luck on the look for a car. Used cars are very expensive right now. Mine is worth almost what I paid for it in 2022.

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    1. Oh gosh. I don't know that I ever had a car less than 10 years old! I bought myself a new car when I was in the military, but Tim and I have never had a new one.

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  9. You guys have a distinctives style.

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  10. Oh my, I just learned something new. Reading about not buying a car is stressful, too!

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    1. Lol. Try living with it! I never quite know what is going on. In this case it didn't matter so much, but sometimes it does.

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  11. I wish I could evaluate a car like Tim.

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    1. He has done this sort of thing all his life. It is how he was raised.

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  12. The car you didn't buy looks very smart. Honda, here at least, has such a good reputation.
    The last photo is lovely, and thank you.

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    1. Sorry about the lack of pictures. One cool thing that we daw was where a tornado touched down. It was all very recent and probably happened when we stood watching the clouds move in a circle...and had no idea what we were seeing.

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  13. When the angels sing, you must obey.
    Mr Merry and I have the same policy on vehicles. I drive an Equinox now but my previous sedan that I drove over ten years was a Chevy something - similar in shape to an escort but I could never even remember the name of the model. It was a dark gray but officially some shade of blue. As long I as I can reach the pedals and see out of the windshield - and it runs without problems - I am good!

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    1. I have one more non-negotiable. It can't smell like it is about to burst into flames.

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  14. I got confused too, whether you did or didn’t buy. Can see now that you did so hope both will be very happy with it.

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    1. Headed up to bring it home this very minute.

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  15. Ha! Not buying a car is certainly exhausting!

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    1. Or not not buying a car, I guess I should say.

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    2. Sure is! I think it is almost less stressful to buy a car than to not buy a car to be be honest. Hope Dave is feeling well enough to enjoy your cruise at this point.

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  16. I am very different, I only buy new cars, look after them, and keep them till something major happens. I never need repairs, am always up to date gadget wise and know who and how my car has been driven. I love my hatchback with leather heated and cooled seats and being a 2020 Kia Soul, it is not big. It is white so does not show dirt, although I keep it clean. I get the maintenance done when required but I don’t drive many miles anymore. Someone recently thought it was a new car. When I want a new car I give my son in law my old one as he is a mechanic who can fix it up for them. I never buy a car that will attract car thieves even though I could afford one. I am always happy with my car and especially this year with the cooling seats. I am old now and just hope I am able to drive for a couple of more years. Enjoy your new to you car Debby. Gigi

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    1. What really makes our situation different is that I am married to Mr. Fixit. I would feel much the same as you if I wasn't. Car repairs are eyewateringly expensive.

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  17. This hits close to home....around here the mantra is "not buying right now....." - endlessly flexible since right now only lasts a second. We have been fortunate over the last however many years to have a very good maintenance place close to hand - now that's been sold and we are in wait and see mode. I'm very passive about all this, reliable is all I care about. I remember the family bread making extravaganza from an earlier year, so delighted to hear its on-going.

    Ceci

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    1. Ceci, some cousins have branched out. We made about 30 pizzas in addition to the bread.

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  18. I'm dreading having to choose another car when mine gets too old and bothersome!!
    I like the sound of the breadmaking...a good get together with a definite bonus!

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    1. Oh gz. It is such a wonderful time! we want to build our own outside brick oven.

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  19. Debby, you're like a modern day Erma Bombeck--and I love Hondas (that's what I drove for umpteen years before selling my Civic in 2021) and that Crosstour looks like a swell compromise! :^)

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  20. Doug, your post today was heartbreaking. I do not understand this world.

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    1. Sorry Debby, and I don't understand it either...

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  21. Never thought the narrative of purchasing an automobile would make me chuckle, but you've done it! Hope you like it, should do well in the snow. Cheers!

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    1. *wipes hands together briskly* Well then, Jim,my work here is done.

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  22. Good thing his mind was dead set against buying another car! This was such a funny post, Debby.
    Our vehicles are always bought used too, and driven until they pretty much can't go any more. As my son said, we use up a vehicle....except for when a tree falls on it or something.
    The breadbaking day sounds so wonderful. What a cool family tradition.

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    1. Back in the old days when we had kids at home and in college. And we squeezed our pennies until Lincoln wept, Tim fixed cars over and over. He just refused to give up on them. I kept telling him I smelled something burning. He insisted it was my imagination. It wasn't. I got a ride home with a state trooper, which I am sure gave the neighbors gossip fodder. Believe it or not, that was not even the end of that car. I refused to drive it however. He swapped cars. His car was just as hinky, but at least it was a different hinky.

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  23. A very well told story that I enjoyed completely. My ex-husband would become obsessed with an item and it meant we were definitely going to buy it, even if we couldn't afford it. I'm sure Tim is much nicer than my X, though.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. We are at a point in our lives where most of our obsessions are affordable.

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  24. Sounds like a fun way to car shop with no long term consequences.

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    1. Except when he suddenly veers off script. Honestly. I get ship lash sometimes.

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  25. Thank you for story that I enjoyed completely

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