Tuesday, December 9, 2025

Catching Up

 It has been a long busy time. This is the week of the toy giveaway. From all signs, it will be a great thing. Someone sent me 3 sleds. People are volunteering. We made front page of the paper. That attracted even more attention. Two people are donating entire doll collections. A woman who owned a book store is donating 3 totes of brand new childrens' books. Bus drivers are collecting. Churches. It seems impossible that it is coming together so perfectly, but it is. 

I screwed up. A woman stepped up and offered to make an eye-catching poster. She did, and it was a fine poster. With a typo that became a Very. Big. Deal. 

She overstepped. She did not want to be a team player. She portrayed this as a 'her and I' project. It isn't. This is the work of so many different hands. By the time I realized what was happening, there were really upset people. A very low blow had been taken on Facebook. The post was removed, but it was a slap.

So, for a time I was standing in the middle of two angry camps. I felt pretty badly. In the end, the woman who overstepped stepped away, angrily raging that she was done. I tried talking it through with everyone. Both sides like me just fine, but they refuse to work with each other. 

A more experienced person would have seen what was happening before all the mad. I learned a valuable lesson.

I went to my son's family for four days. The Nutcracker was so sweet. I loved it. The girls were so proud of their hard work, and rightly so.

The next day was the Christmas pageant. The oldest was Mary. The youngest was part of the angelic host, but she opted out at the last minute. She'd had enough of the big stage. 

One moment that stands out: I got my son and daughter out of the house for a date. They've been going full steam for weeks now, plus they are getting over a two week bout of virus. Total burn out. 

So the girls and I were having a cozy evening at home. Square in the middle of The Santa Clause, the youngest began screaming. It scared the wits out of me. She had her face buried in the sofa, screaming hysterically, but finally she raised her face to me and THE CHILD HAD CLIPPED A BLUEY HAIRCLIP TO HER UPPER LIP!

I was expecting blood. I was braced for the very worst. This sight was so unexpected that I burst out laughing. Which hurt her feelings terribly. I unclipped her lip and cuddled her while murmuring apologies. She got over it, thankfully.

I headed home Monday. I stopped at their Mennonite discount grocery. That place is huge. I stocked up on good cheese. It will last for the winter. A product that Tim uses sells for $6.99 there. To buy it here, it is $29.99. I got 4 boxes of that. Ground pork for $1.75 a pound. We use it to mix with the ground venison, which is too lean otherwise. My Bel Vitas. 6 boxes, 99 cents each. Smoked ham slices for soup. Before it was done, I had $174. and a very full cooler in the back. Tim was very impressed with my haul. 

Today we mailed out our daughter's package to the UK. I think it will be a nice thing to open on Christmas morning. 

We grabbed the few things we needed in town, got our flu, covid and shingles vaccines and headed back home where we ground 25 lbs of hamburger, packaged it. Vacuum sealed it and got it in the freezer. 

It was a full on day. I made a quick stir fry for supper, and as I was cooking  Tim stood up suddenly and said "Aunt Anna has died." She is the last of his mother's siblings to go. The end of a generation. She died a few days short of her 99th birthday. Sad news. 



It was below zero here this morning.

We are watching the American Revolution (Ken Burns) on PBS. So excellent. It rips any romantic notions of either side away, to be sure. 

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  1. Ah, sorry about the brouhaha. How terrible for you. But let’s hope that the whole thing is a success. That Burn/s doc would be good to see.

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    1. It is really excellent. Do you have access to PBS up there?

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  2. So sorry about the diva. You didn't need that. But let's hope it's just a little bump, over with now.

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    1. I think it is. I felt bad about the ruffled feathers and afraid this was going to put the kibosh on everything, but the other person remains enthusiastic and committed. We are going to sit down after the holidays and look at what we will do differently next year.

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  3. I'm glad you were able to make it through the kerfuffle, that would have knocked me down and left me crying. I have a hard time with stuff like that. I hope everything works out in the end.
    And how wonderful you got to spend time with your daughter and her family. I had to laugh about the hairclip. Once, when me son was about six, he and I were at the zoo, in the children's section. All of a sudden this little girl goes running to her mother, her hands covering her face. I think we all expected the worst. Turns out a llama had spit on her. Her mother laughed too. It still makes me laugh to this day.
    Take care and don't work too hard.

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    1. Believe it or not, my youngest daughter was spat on by a camel in Egypt. She ended up getting salmonella! She was very ill.

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  4. I had forgotten you were going out of town. So, a few days ago I got worried because you were not posting. Finally, I reread your last post. So glad everything is going so well. Except for the fly in the ointment. I enjoyed my two granddaughters in their Christmas programs when they were little. They both continued to sing in choral groups into high school and now don't do any of that at all and I wonder if they miss it.

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    1. They both were so pleased with their part in it. It was fun to watch.

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  5. You really did do a catch-up here, I was wondering about you Debby. OH I WANT TO SEE THAT KEN BURNS DOCUMENTARY, thanks for reminding me! I'm sorry about the unnecessary drama involving the poster woman and the big toy drive, and also sorry about the screaming kiddo and the blue hairclip on her lip, I hope she's okay!

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    1. You can Doug. Just download PBS. It was the first thing that popped up when I clicked on PBS. In equal parts horrifying and inspiring.

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  6. It’s too bad about the poster causing such bad feelings. If only the poster artist had been more gracious, and team oriented. Glad it only ruffled feathers, and didn’t negatively impact the very generous toy giveaway. I’m so happy it is pulling together so well. There will be so many happy children benefiting from this! Cali.

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    1. She has done great good. She could have been a greater asset had she simply chosen to go with the flow.

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  7. What a busy and productive four days and still more like that before Christmas I imagine. I hope Tim did ok with the cats. Cats can be very demanding at times. It was good that your kids got well and had a date night. I always liked that for my kids but maybe more for me getting the grands all to myself. Thanks for all you are doing in getting this toy drive started and happy it has grown into a great blessing for many.

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    1. I am pleased that so many have gotten involved. I can't believe it is happening.

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  8. A bad way to learn a good lesson. So pleased that the entire thing is doing well though, with so many donations and there will be so many happy children on Christmas day.

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  9. We really enjoyed (?) Ken Burns' "American Revolution" ... learned a lot.. had our minds changed at times. What are "we" going to do if he can't make another film!! Thank goodness PBS has been part of his film journey ( yes, I know there were many other supporters and underwiters) .

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    1. The ending is especially poignant to me. What do you think these creators of the constitution would make of our government today.

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  10. Local group politics, difficult, but you are doing a great job. Focus on what you doing and not power players.
    You had a nice time with the grands, and that is good. It's an extra bit sad when people get so close to a significant age, but don't quite make it.

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  11. You are like the angel and Santa to even think of getting that much of a response organized. SO nice for the folks that need those items. Maybe you'll run for mayor next year since you managed the puffed up feathers well. Glad the bluey lip didn't turn blue or red and require an ER visit. Goofey kids. Sorry about the Aunt leaving this world. A bit humbling when an entire generation is gone. Don't forget to rest some. Linda in Kansas

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    1. The thing is that I really didn't organize anything. I just threw my idea out there, and it was seized on.

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  12. It all worked out in the end. Your toy project was noble, pat yourself on the back and forget the rough and tumble. Your little granddaughter made me laugh it reminded me of Tom aged about 5 years old stepping on a prickly plant and screaming the place down, until it was pointed out he had not been bitten.

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    1. Is there anything more heartstopping that a screaming child?

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  13. I can understand your feelings about the power-trip incident. Any type of unpleasantness causes me a significant amount of stress and anxiety but your project was still successful so you should be proud of all the contributors who helped make it so.

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    1. I was pretty sick about it. I wasn't even at home. The other woman just took the bull by the horns. She was not wrong.

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  14. I am so glad that the toy giveaway has attracted such a lot of support and that one unpleasant incident hasn't derailed it.
    The Ken Burns documentary sounds great. I must have watched the Civil War one 3 or 4 times, so will definitely check that one out if it makes it onto the PBS channel this side of the pond.

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  15. I'm glad you enjoyed your time away, despite the hair clip incident. Your toy give-away sounds so successful - people have responded magnificently, though it's a shame about the poster lady. The key thing is that many children will be very happy.

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    1. That is the only important thing in my mind.

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  16. Yikes, you are busy! It sounds like a good busy, though. Oye, dealing with all kinds of people can get all kinds of wonky. Glad the toy giveaway will still result in happy children. LOVE any Ken Burns documentary. That man has a way with words.

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  17. Glad to learn the lip survived intact. A good post about a fun (mostly) time.

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    1. Of all the things that I feared had happened, that had not even entered my mind.

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  18. Best of luck with the upcoming event. Hope all goes smoothly now. I thought the Ken Burns documentary was fabulous and so timely for us to see that now. I also liked Death by Lightening on Netflix - a series about James Garfield. We need to learn from history instead of trying to erase it!

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  19. People! There's always one who has to stir up hard feelings. I'm so pleased that people are donating things for the exchange.

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  20. I want to watch the Ken Burns documentary when I can find streaming where I can watch it. (Don't have regular TV or cable.) All his documentaries are just amazing!
    So sorry you had issues with the poster lady. I am so baffled by some people. Glad it is going along so fantastically despite the kerfuffle. You will know more for next year. Such a wonderful event!!
    Sorry about the aunt. But she lived a long life. I hope it was a really good one.
    Am listening to Christmas songs and wish you both the best this season. :)

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    1. She did live a long life, a good one. Independently for most of it.

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  21. Always a shame when people get their knickers in a twist, but it seems like it has blown over, hope it stays that way.

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    1. It was shocking to find myself in the middle of that tempest. I learned a lot. It does seem to have blown over.

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  22. Has the toy giveaway happened already?
    We are watching Revolution too but in small doses. We've been learning quite a bit.

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    1. We watch an episode a night. The toy drop off happens Fri the 12. People will pick out the toys for their children on Saturday the 13th.

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    1. It is made all the lovelier by the fact that I don't have to drive in it, If I don't want to. It was bad today, a heavy wet snow.

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  24. I don't know why people have so much trouble working together on good projects but they just do. I'm sorry.
    Your granddaughter clipping Bluie to her upper lip reminded me of the time my little brother had put the rubber bands used with braces on each of his little fingers and left them there long enough so that the tips of his fingers were bright blue. "Look!" he said.
    Oh my god.
    Kiddos.
    We only mix our sausage venison with pork. I usually add some olive oil when I make things like meat loaf.

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    1. I think at the root of it is the desire to feel important or useful. I think we can all understand that. Where it goes wrong is when people turn that need into a competition. It is not enough to be important...they must be most important.

      Oh my gosh...your brother!

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  25. Thankfully the toy giveaway is carrying on, despite the disagreement.

    You've been so busy!!

    That is one of Ken Burns' best! Although all his work is good.
    The one on Ben Franklin is the one I saw last when I still watched tv

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    1. I am honestly not sure if I watched that one. Ol' Ben was a bit of a rake, wasn't he?

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  26. You have had and continue to have a lot on your plate, Debby. The pettiness of people constantly amazes me; I am so sorry your event was affected by it but all will be well in the end. I hope you get some rest soon! Sending good vibes your way!

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    1. I am working with some very enthusiastic people. It is hard not to get caught up in it

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  27. Debbie, the way you described Tim standing up announcing his aunt had died made me wonder if he just "knew" or ... did he get a message on his phone or ... did he learn earlier in the day and only now remember to tell you?

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    1. He received a message on his phone. I think he was shocked.

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  28. OK, the Bluey hairclip story is bizarrely funny! Though I'm sure your granddaughter didn't think so.

    It's a shame that the toy drive has become tainted by internecine squabbling. Isn't that always the way? But I'm glad it's been successful nonetheless.

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