So. It is applied to the poor and it's true. Lots and lots of examples.
But today, I ran up against another sort of cognitive dissonance. There is a person who is extremely well off that I know. In the 25 years that I have known her, I know that she has always been very much about flaunting that comfortable life style. She also believed that she was envied. Probably by some folks, she was. Anyone's disagreement with her was quickly written off as jealousy. Most shocking, to me, is that she believes that if you live a God approved life, God gives you stuff. The more stuff you have, the more pleased God is with you.
I'm not close to her. We are too far apart in values. The stuff that she places great importance on, I don't. Simply put. That's not to say that her way is wrong. It is just not my way. That's all.
When Tim and I started out, life was difficult. Really hard. But we worked very hard and lived a careful life, and one by one, five kids grew up and got their college educations even though NAFTA led to a lot of layoffs in the machining field and Tim was frequently out of work. He found and we bought an old house in very poor shape that had been on the market for years. We paid about $3500 for it. And during those layoffs, Tim worked on that house. It was our first rental, with an upstairs and downstairs unit.
And we were off.
But the one thing that I noticed was that as our own life got easier, there was (no other way to put it) signs of jealousy from the corner of the acquaintance with the comfortable life. It was overt. She was shocked at one of our purchases (they have one of their own) and she got quite irritated about it, which I thought was strange. Irritation?
We had already been through our hard times, and had found a business that would see us through, but it was the opposite for them. Their business began to see more difficult times and she began to complain about the government a lot more. Every downturn was the direct fault of the government.
Tim read a post from her on facebook.
About how hard Americans have to work now that Biden is president. (She left her job years back)
About how we are slaves to the government because we need to buy a new car, and the payments require us to work and we come home exhausted at the end of the day and cannot enjoy our lives (no. People don't need new cars. Again, she does not work outside the home. She seems to enjoy her life quite a lot.)
About how we don't own our homes, the government does, they just 'let' us think we do. (Based on what? I don't understand this at all, and no explanation was offered, just disgust that it was so, at least in her mind)
Her list of complaints against the government went on and on. I won't bother to hit them all point by point, but what I saw was a foolish woman addicted to a comfortable lifestyle.
What we noticed from watching afar is that she simply did not have the ability (desire?) to adapt her life to changing circumstances. When times are tight in our house, we tighten our belts. In her life, the new cars, the new clothes, the fancy gee-gaws, they all continued, and to do without any of the things that she has become accustomed to was, in her mind, a deprived life.
Cognitive dissonance. Not just for poor folk.