Friday, June 22, 2012


You know what sucks?

Having a strong opinion that cannot be expressed.

I'm a mother and there comes the time when children are no longer children, and they are facing big decisions.

I still my tongue, and my opinions stay right where they need to be...shrieking in my own head. I listen. I say, "You must be the one to decide. You have the power. You are only a victim if you choose to be."

The child wavers between the two choices, waiting to be pushed one way or the other.

I repeat, "The choice is yours. You must make it. You have the support of your family, no matter what, but you must make the choice."

It makes me feel sickish inside, but the days when 'mommy made it all better' are long gone. I know that I behaved wisely.

I also think that being wise sucks.


Kelly said...

Oh I still offer my opinion, always followed by the "but you can do what you want to're an adult now" line. Even when they actively seek my opinion, they often do the opposite, so I figure I might as well say what I want.

BUSH BABE said...

Sounds hard... when do we have to start doing that again?

Jayne said...

(((hugs))) They never grow up, not really.

Debby said...

Mine are all grown up, and we are talking about a very grown up decision that carries long term consequences. The fact is that either choice carries with it a rough row to hoe, and I know that the tendency would be to hold me responsible, to point fingers and blame me for the advice. I need to stay out of it. My opinion is known. The choice is not mine.

BB? You have a while yet, but if you're a good mom, you're encouraging Dash and Violet to be independent and strong.