Saturday, October 23, 2010

Hair.

I saw a woman with bouncy smooth glossy hair.

Mine is never going to be like that again. I've accepted that truth. I tried to let it grow a little longer but it just turned into a bushy shapeless mess. So I got it cut off. I'm trying to be practical. I mean, at this point, I'm glad to have hair. If I need to wear it short, well that's not the worst thing that could happen. I keep telling myself this stuff, and I'd made my peace with it. I thought. Until today, when I saw a woman with reddish hair, shiny and glossy, a perfect page boy. It bounced as she walked, and she carelessly tucked it behind her ear as she talked. I thought I was okay with the hair thing. But maybe not.

11 comments:

WhiteStone said...

Yes, I'll probably never again have my long white "silver fox" bob. However...and this is a biggy...chemo doesn't make our teeth fall out! Teeth we still have. And our hair grows back. Even if it's not like it was before.

And, hey, if I had a choice between 20 years of healthy living at the expense of losing all my hair forever? I'd take the 20 years.

But I get what you mean. Seeing a lovely head of hair does bring a certain wistful yearning on our part for the days when we had such a lovely 'do.

BUSH BABE said...

Oh dear... that does suck. I know what Whitestone is saying, but I also feel your ache. My hair has changed with age and kids, no longer as thick and glossy as it once was. But I know having it change so completely would be hard...

Hugs
BB

quid said...

That sucks. I have great, thick hair. (Thanks, Mom.) If only it was "donate-able".

quid

jeanie said...

Still, shorter makes it less able to be torn out with group projects, surely?

Hugs to you Debby.

Bill of Wasilla said...

A nice pat on the head to you, Whitestone and Bush Babe. I have seen none of you in person, but I think the hair that all of you have is beautiful.

Scotty said...

Not to make light of your situation but... you should try being a 50+ male with MPB (Male Pattern Baldness) - I can never decide whether to keep all the wisps loosely together into the ponytail I try to maintain now or to stock up on razors and attempt to look bold/sexy/ like I didn't give a fig..

:-)

Decisions, decisions. Although the girlfriend's propensity to grab my ponytail when she kisses me and run her fingers over my bald pate when she's horny might have something to do with my indecision, lol.

Debby said...

Jeanie! LOL! Yep. If I had long hair, I'd have probably yanked it all out in frustration. Scotty, Dylan shaved his head last spring. He actually looks very nice, although I do have to say I walked right past him and didn't recognize him.

The hair is not a big deal. I know this. But still, I saw this head of hair, and I was surprised at the immediate and powerful yearning. I told her that she had beautiful hair, and she said, carelessly, "Really?!!"

Caroline said...

My hair is back to normal - in that picture it was actually after walking around outside and it was really windblown and pretty messy. But its back. I used to have long hair that was relatively straight. Now I keep it short and with the help of a good stylist it seems to look pretty good - if I remember to brush it more than once a day in the morning. I have never understood those people with the perfect hair. They must spend too much time and money on it.

PS I think your's looks pretty good in the picture on your blog.

Kelly said...

When my mother died in her early 50s she already suffered from "female pattern baldness". So....I'm just thankful at 52 I still have a decent head of hair!

Lydia said...

Debbie, I can only imagine that there are little things that bring loss to mind. And, you know, the hair thing, it is a loss as a result of cancer treatment. I'm glad you can name it for what it is, it is OK to feel the loss.

Scotty, I grew up with a dad that was bald, and I think bald is very attractive. I like hair, too, but just so you know, some of us like it just fine. :}

Jenny said...

My hair did come back and was pretty. But now it's been 16 years and it's thinning? Cancer? Probably getting older. But it IS good to get older. I don't think we ever get over wanting beautiful hair. Wish I had appreciated it more when I had it.