Tim's a pretty laid back character, and he seldom has any objections to what I write about. He doesn't want me to write about this though, and out of respect for him, I will not.
Many breast cancer 'patients' take medication following chemo and radiation. These drugs come with a myriad of side effects. Bone pain is one of them, and it has been a challenge to me.
But there is another one that affects not only me, but my husband as well. This side effect has been a difficult adjustment for us, and for our marriage. What I have lost interest in, well, my husband has not. Reading about this, I am surprised to find that the overwhelming majority of women seem to believe that if the woman has lost interest, well, her partner must simply do without, or be labeled as 'insensitive'.
I don't believe that.
Number 1) I appreciate that my husband still sees me as a desirable woman, even if I don't feel like a desirable woman.
Number 2) Marriage is a partnership. My feelings are never more important than his feelings.
Number 3) I'm expecting that in three years and seven months (but who's counting) things will go back to the way it's always been.
In the meantime, I accomodate. Willingly. I do not feel degraded, nor do I feel that my husband is insensitive. I guess you can call us 'a purpose driven marriage'. Our story has always begun with 'It is not about me.'
Tim? I didn't write about it. Well. Not much anyway.