I heard the strangest story. A family is dealing with a very tragic situation. The parents have made the decision to cover the situation up, to lie to their children. The children are not even children, per se. They are young adults. My take is that, number one, this is a small community, and nothing, NOOOOOOOTHING is a secret for long. I want my children to be able to rely on what I tell them. Number two, if my kids have to deal with tough stuff, I want to be the one helping them deal with it.
I don't think that it is sensible to try to protect your child from all the bad things in the world. I mean, no matter how good you are at that, there will come a time when those kids are dealing with crap. It's part of living. Life is a pain sometimes, but our children take their cues from us. They learn to cope by watching us cope. Am I perfect? No. Shoot, no. But I am sensible, and life might knock me on my behind for a period of time, but I'd like to think that I always get back up and continue on. I'd like to believe that when my kids deal with the tough stuff, they will follow the example of their mother.