Monday, April 13, 2009

Mary

Last month, Mary was able to ditch her wig. Her hair was still short, but she thought that she 'could carry it off', she said. I was so happy for her. Mary had beat it. I'd finished chemo, and was quite happy with the way my body had met that challenge. I did alright. I was pretty sure I was going to breeze through radiation, and then I would be done, done, done!

Mary had an appointment with the surgeon who did her biopsies. He tells her that this is "Bad. Really bad." Mary will have a mastectomy. They are moving quickly on this.

I'm a bit ashamed of how devastating this news is to me.

14 comments:

Lydia said...

No shame needed. This would rock anyone to the core. My prayers are with her as she faces off against this predator, and with you as you support your friend in battle.

Alicia @ boylerpf said...

I would not feel ashamed at all. You are such a dear friend for giving her the support she needs. I think sometimes we think of shame for fear. You are in the good stage now and can give her the love & support she needs now.

Pam said...

No need for shame. If, as has been said, this news about Mary didn't rock you to the core, you'd be a better man than I am.

Mary will be added to my prayer list.

YOU are NOT Mary!

(((HUGS!))))

Mrs. Spit said...

I'm with Pam. . .

Mikey said...

Damn. I just don't know what to say.

Caroline said...

I hate it when I find how upset I am to hear news like this. I am thinking of you both.

Bush Babe said...

My heart is with Pam. That's shocking. You, my friend, are Deb. A whole seperate kettle of fish/wig-wearer. One bleeding thing at a time, OK??
Hugs
BB

Kelly said...

I agree with all that's been said.

I'm already praying for BOTH of you!

Anonymous said...

Deb, Every person has a different route in this journey. Treasure each moment - as I am sure you do. When I was having chemo, one of my nurses had one mastectomy - and then another the following year. I was shocked and it must have been devastating for her. But she is still here and well, and so am I - 17 years later. I still count every day a reprieve - but it doesn't overshadow my days. I pray for you both that you will have a similar outcome.
Let go and let God while we mere mortals just do our best and live, love and laugh - as often as possible anyway.
My love and blessings to you and Mary Barb

Mary Paddock said...

I can't imagine how you'd extricate yourself from both your sympathy fears for you friend and your own understandably increased worries. There's nothing to be ashamed of here.

Hang in there.

PaintedPromise said...

aw Deb, what they said... Mary is lucky to have your support!!!

quid said...

I'm with Pam, too, Debby. You're both now in my thoughts....

quid

MuseSwings said...

No shame necessary! Feel however you want/need to about anything you want/need to feel about. Love you!

Lori said...

I'm glad they are moving QUICKLY! Again, both you and she are in my prayers.