Sunday, October 12, 2008

Hair

I dye my hair. I've been dying my hair regularly for probably 15 years now. It needs to be done again. I study the gray roots in the mirror.
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Mary and I were talking a couple days ago. I met Mary on the first day of seventh grade, our first day at the high school. The place seemed so huge, although, actually it wasn't. We were lost in the halls, the bells had rung, and we were scared to death that we would be in trouble, and we were both looking for room 208. We found it. We also found a friendship that has lasted through thick and thin for the 40 years since. When we were teenagers, we agonized about our skin, and about our looks, and, (oh horrors!) our hair, which was not long enough, and not straight like the popular girls' hair. I'm going to lose my hair, but Dixie had told me how a friend's hair had grown back after chemo, and it was beautiful, and thick and even better than it had been before. Mary said that she had heard the same thing.
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I need to get my hair colored, but cannot bring myself to waste the money. I'm practical like that. I look at my hair in the mirror. The hair thing, that's gonna be a toughy.

13 comments:

rhubarbwhine said...

My friend R, who had the same laments about her hair, was stunned to find that her grew back wavy curls (her hair had been dead straight) and blonde (she had been mouse brown with 30 % grey for 10 years) after her chemo. It still has not greyed or straightened and she has been off chemo and in remission for 5 years.

Scarves are cool. You will look very cool and trendy in a scarf, or even clean skinned. You are gorgeous just as you are, hair is an accessory that needs washing. Pah!

Mikey said...

The hair would be very hard, I agree. Are you going to do the wig thing? I imagine the only bright side to this is you get to try a bunch of different new looks.

Cancer changes everything it seems.

We love you, no matter what happens with your hair.

jeanie said...

I thought you weren't allowed to dye you hair anyway when you had chemo? Could be a myth.

One blogger I read is The Hotfessional. She suffers from Alopecia and so recently, for the second or third time in her life, just lost the lot - and so she "outed" herself and showed her head on her blog.

Scarves are very definitely cool, and wigs can be very real - just so long as you are not hiding the bit on top only and are too tight to keep up the color matching with the edges - but as you aren't a vain man who was hip in the 70s, you should be able to pull it off.

Mary Paddock said...

That one would really get to me too and you are more matter-of-fact about it( read: stronger) than I would be. One of the very, very few things I like about physical self is my hair.

It may be a small comfort, considering your perspective, but the good news is, we are living in an era that allows for a variety of styles and wigs are often so very realistic that very few people would guess that you're wearing one. I ran across a woman the other day whose hair had changed (and it looked good before). I complimented her on it, only to learn that what I'd seen previously was a wig as she'd been going through chemo. I never would have known, I told her. She assured me that most people hadn't.

And, as I tell the boys after a bad hair cut, it will grow back.

Debby said...

Well, chemo doesn't start until the 20th, so I've not received any long list of dos and don'ts. I will probably just go with a wig. I really think that people would stare otherwise, and I'm hugely self conscious to begin with. So, I'm taking the easy way out. It will be interesting to see what grows back. My luck - alfalfa or corn.

Lavinia said...

Yes, no way around that. The hair thing is a toughy. I actually like the look of fancifully twisted scarves. Wish we were still in the era when bejewelled turbans were a fashion statement for women.

Redlefty said...

Alfalfa or corn?

Nah. Next year you'll be a redhead. We're taking over.

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Debby said...

Yeah, John, thanks. Right on that.

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Hal Johnson said...

Yeah, I've not only heard that about hair coming back thicker post-chemo, I've seen it. My sister-in-law's hair came back noticeably thicker after she finished her chemo sessions.

PaintedPromise said...

i met a gal not long ago who has been through chemo, she did the scarf thing... her treatments are now over and we are all celebrating every 1/8 inch!! we all want to touch it lol...

her comment that sticks with me was that it wasn't the hair that was the problem, it was losing the eyelashes... she didn't realize how much they protect the eyes until they weren't there! i sure don't mean to be negative, i just thought that if it were me i'd want to know, they say forewarned is forearmed although i don't know that there is much you can do about it... except to not be surprised by stuff!

like Mikey says, we love you no matter what happens with your hair!

Doris said...

My hubby has lung cancer..We are at the cancer center sometimes 4 out of 5 days a week. I see so many ladies there who look much better tham me with my mousey hair.I get to talking and find out they are wearing a wig that is so natural I can't tell the difference ! Or those who have no hair have the cutest caps on . Sometimes I just want to shave my head and put on a cute cap or wig and be done with it ! Hang in there girl.. I will be praying for you . Doris